tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post6440528455727399122..comments2024-01-21T15:03:35.162-07:00Comments on Lara Schiffbauer's Motivation for Creation: What's Perseverance Without Acceptance?Lara Schiffbauerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-14958232094277063892012-03-29T17:39:29.498-06:002012-03-29T17:39:29.498-06:00Thanks, Kelley! That's what I like about Yoga...Thanks, Kelley! That's what I like about Yoga - it's supposed to be non-competitive. I say "supposed to be" because even there I find myself checking out everyone else to see how much better they are than me. But, that's where I started to learn to let go of that competitive streak and find my own way as the best for me. There's a theme out on the blogs I've been reading about supporting each other, and I think acceptance of our own path is primary to being able to be happy for other's successes, too. Our writing isn't about them, it's about us!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-2892318193756840772012-03-29T17:35:27.627-06:002012-03-29T17:35:27.627-06:00I'm like you - I try to think of it as every l...I'm like you - I try to think of it as every little step is a step forward. Sometimes I don't get an hour in, but at least I'm working on it, and I try to make up the time when I can!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-74796904254694460472012-03-28T21:47:50.597-06:002012-03-28T21:47:50.597-06:00Wow, Lara. This is SO well done. I completely agre...Wow, Lara. This is SO well done. I completely agree and I love what you said about if you have to fight for something it might not be the right time. We have to make sure that first and foremost, this writing journey is enjoyable. That we don't lose ourselves and our purpose as a writer in the successes and failures of others. This is OUR journey and if we want to, we will persevere.Kelley Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06373650788799372118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-11368651599209162642012-03-28T21:42:59.724-06:002012-03-28T21:42:59.724-06:00Letting go is hard, yes, but sometimes we need to ...Letting go is hard, yes, but sometimes we need to do that. I too had a firm schedule in mind that I did not make and I am now on the same track as you - it will get done when it gets done. I work on it almost every night for at least an hour (finally a good schedule!) and hope to have it done soon. But that is it. Can't force everything in life. We already have too much stress and frustration...E.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08362521696011839816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-17743832102810691472012-03-28T16:08:55.585-06:002012-03-28T16:08:55.585-06:00I did think it was funny (about Prozac1) and wonde...I did think it was funny (about Prozac1) and wondered if anyone would notice! You get a gold star! <br /><br />Diane Carlisle says the same thing about the fish. She decided it's actually an evil plot I concocted in order to keep people on my blog site! (cue evil laugh) :)<br /><br />Yes, I have made my peace with the speed at which my writing career (eek to say it) is going. I'm hoping it will last - I tend to work myself up periodically, usually when I feel I'm being left behind! ;D Knowing it is half the battle, right?Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-26445841580001005992012-03-28T13:29:49.854-06:002012-03-28T13:29:49.854-06:00Hey Lara,
Great, thoughtful post and well done to...Hey Lara,<br /><br />Great, thoughtful post and well done to you (and Very Wise Husband.... hmmm must tell *my* wife about that name:)<br /><br />Glad to hear you are happier now with the state of your writing career (and yes, dare to say it :)<br /><br />PS... I thought it was funny that the tree pic was by "Prozac 1" (Nothing like a wee bit of prozac to chill one down :)<br /><br />PPS... never mind the prozac...that fish thing on your home page... it's addictive:)Mark Koopmanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03634424953074803816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-15665158776520187402012-03-27T22:27:05.178-06:002012-03-27T22:27:05.178-06:00Thanks, Cindy! I think that's what convinced ...Thanks, Cindy! I think that's what convinced me to not try to force getting it ready for the pitch. I had submitted a story to major mags (Carter, you remember?) and it needed more work (doughy mess). Then, when I thought I could make it better, those mags weren't available anymore. I didn't want the same thing to happen w/ Finding Meara. But it's sooo hard for me to be patient. Definitely a character trait I must always work on!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-61937369827035869352012-03-27T22:24:33.580-06:002012-03-27T22:24:33.580-06:00Chronic pain diseases (chronic diseases, for that ...Chronic pain diseases (chronic diseases, for that matter) suck. My sister had M.S., and it was awful. I'm glad I'm tucked into the Universe - if it helps other people, especially! I'm really glad I found your blog, by the way. It often speaks to me, as well! You have great insights.Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-13239859242242852202012-03-27T22:21:48.785-06:002012-03-27T22:21:48.785-06:00I am so happy it was helpful. It's funny how ...I am so happy it was helpful. It's funny how I'll post something, and then read a similar post somewhere else. Ie. Writer Unboxed today had a guest speaker about something similar to acceptance, can't remember exactly. Makes me feel better that I'm not alone - and that can be incredibly helpful all by itself! Chin up - we're all there with you!!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-36016758453848460672012-03-27T22:19:32.287-06:002012-03-27T22:19:32.287-06:00When I realize my original time line for a goal wo...When I realize my original time line for a goal won't work, I sweat a few bullets then move on. I simply set a new time line. Your work has a better chance of success if it's polished and completely ready. It's like baking a pie; if you take it out of the oven before it's time, you have a doughy mess. So bake that manuscript till you feel it's ready,Lara. You'll be glad you did.Cindy Keen Reyndershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01538914807361602296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-74226512023723575052012-03-27T22:19:12.759-06:002012-03-27T22:19:12.759-06:00Yes, now that I think about it, I do. I work in a...Yes, now that I think about it, I do. I work in an elementary school, and there is a nifty book that I have used to teach mindful breathing/eating/etc... to help ADHD type behaviors. I also do a relaxation group before school on T/TH, and I do teach meditation/chanting. The kids love to "do the Ohms"!<br /><br />I know - it's hard to be a mental health type, and then still get stuck in the same old stuff we're 'sposed to know all about! But...we're only human, too! ;)<br /><br />No, I wish it was in Chicago - it'd be great to meet you! I am going to Colorado Springs, though.Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-67544270862451937502012-03-27T22:03:29.465-06:002012-03-27T22:03:29.465-06:00This was exactly what I needed to read tonight...i...This was exactly what I needed to read tonight...it was a long day of a chronic pain disease and figuring out how to set myself up for success and struggling to accept everything. This was very enlightening and allowed me to breath easily. You may not be following YOUR timeline, but this post proves that you are following the Universe's timeline. <br /><br />Thanks for a perfect post.Elhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15802843532640086060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-33141577254659969022012-03-27T21:32:57.042-06:002012-03-27T21:32:57.042-06:00I wish I had words to explain how much I needed th...I wish I had words to explain how much I needed this right now. You are so stinking FABULOUS! Seriously - you always have all the right answers and I have no doubt that when the time is right - you're going to be rockin that finished book!Leigh Covingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16377634002477171615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-5348679872399173092012-03-27T21:10:42.700-06:002012-03-27T21:10:42.700-06:00Very wise post. Do you teach mindfulness skills to...Very wise post. Do you teach mindfulness skills to your clients? I do, and I think they're wonderful, but they can be hard to remember to use for me when I'm mired in my typical impatience and planning!<br /><br />Is the conference you're mentioning RT in Chicago? If so, I'll be there too!Jennifer Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13300124780126853962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-63340168522161998582012-03-27T19:19:02.675-06:002012-03-27T19:19:02.675-06:00You're right! Change is not bad, and actually ...You're right! Change is not bad, and actually being flexible is important in so many aspects of writing. Acceptance feels kind of like enjoying the walk in the park, instead of only focusing on the end destination. <br /><br />Congratulations for meeting your goal - your first draft took a lot less time than my first draft did!! :)Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-13056865909653194512012-03-27T19:15:51.476-06:002012-03-27T19:15:51.476-06:00We do deserve to cut ourselves some slack. It see...We do deserve to cut ourselves some slack. It seems like every writer I know (myself included) is incredibly hard on themselves. "It" is never enough, good enough, etc... It's a good point that the arts require a different measuring stick than widget making! Thanks!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-13003440553534977002012-03-27T16:31:48.100-06:002012-03-27T16:31:48.100-06:00Oh good for you!! I've done that recently with...Oh good for you!! I've done that recently with a lot of areas. For me, I won't be able to get my book done in time for my (hopeful) writers confererence. I got my book's first draft done this year and that is what I wanted. I have wanted that for a LONG time. The next part needs time as well and I don't want to rush it. I may not actually start the editing process til May-ish and I know for sure I won't make the conference I wanted. So, I accepted it and I'm letting myself breathe. I'm introducing new writing projects (mainly short stories right now...) and I'm also approaching my blog in a new way. Change is not a bad thing and as writers its so important to change our approach or accept our circumstances as they are sometimes. Good for you for knowing where you need to be in the writing process!Nicole Pyleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06920135146911951755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-60756957182373719252012-03-27T13:23:43.994-06:002012-03-27T13:23:43.994-06:00This is a great post and a healthy way to look at ...This is a great post and a healthy way to look at things. While it's important to have goals and deadlines and milestones, particularly if writing professionally, creative endeavors aren't quite the same thing as putting together a known product on an assembly line. It's often difficult to know what a reasonable goal is, and if we don't meet that goal, it's easy to feel like we've failed in some way, even when we've accomplished a lot. We deserve to cut ourselves some slack sometimes :)Mike Schulenberghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07150989011176710430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-83771038664283303372012-03-27T12:49:41.028-06:002012-03-27T12:49:41.028-06:00I do love the guy! Here, here for acceptance! *ra...I do love the guy! Here, here for acceptance! *raises glass*Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-73993474397224439532012-03-27T12:48:46.196-06:002012-03-27T12:48:46.196-06:00Thanks, Randy. My husband is one of my best suppo...Thanks, Randy. My husband is one of my best supports and really helps me not go totally insane with all the instability of writing.Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-46257371043977256402012-03-27T12:47:50.396-06:002012-03-27T12:47:50.396-06:00I have to say thanks for saying the blog is eloque...I have to say thanks for saying the blog is eloquent. Last night when I published it, I asked my husband if it made sense. Sometimes I really can't tell!<br /><br />Thanks, too, for the support about not pitching anyway. I was tempted.Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-46268092430045393612012-03-27T12:45:22.913-06:002012-03-27T12:45:22.913-06:00Nothing wrong with being hopeful! The refresh but...Nothing wrong with being hopeful! The refresh button doesn't break ;)<br /><br />Yeah - accepting can be difficult to do, but all the negativity that surrounds worry and frustration is not healthy, and doesn't help creativity, either. Good for you for being able to let go!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-3370165681511221442012-03-27T12:43:23.120-06:002012-03-27T12:43:23.120-06:00Thanks so much for the e-hug, and the confidence! ...Thanks so much for the e-hug, and the confidence! It is always welcome and appreciated!!<br /><br />Did you see that I Whammied over at The Best of Everything? I couldn't believe it!Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-10710605577165117232012-03-27T12:41:38.425-06:002012-03-27T12:41:38.425-06:00Thanks, Cassie! Relaxing helps everything be bett...Thanks, Cassie! Relaxing helps everything be better, I think. And I totally agree, having company along the journey, and understanding, makes the journey friendlier. :)Lara Schiffbauerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546286607078965432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5871196542873255795.post-18685168278162747692012-03-27T12:12:28.960-06:002012-03-27T12:12:28.960-06:00That hubby's one smart guy, huh?!
Love the q...That hubby's one smart guy, huh?! <br /><br />Love the quotes. Here's to acceptance. We all have to find our way there.Ruth Schiffmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625363295823548969noreply@blogger.com